As a Christian the most common question I think I have been asked is "why does God let suffering happen" or variants on that theme. If this Christian God is so good why do bad things happen. Why on earth should I believe in a god that would allow that to happen?
Matthew 7
13 ‘Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the road is easy that leads to destruction, and there are many who take it. 14 For the gate is narrow and the road is hard that leads to life, and there are few who find it.'
People seem to have this strange notion that once you become a Christian life is going to be hunky-dory. Pain and suffering are going to be a thing of the past and that because God is on your side everything is just going to be one big party from here on.
I hate to burst the bubble, but this cannot be the case. There is nothing nice and easy in the words ‘If any want to become my followers, let them deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.' These are words that are familiar to most churchgoers, maybe so well known that we cease to think about their significance. The Message paraphrase aids us in our understanding of this passage with the following
Luke 9:23-27
23-27 Then he told them what they could expect for themselves: “Anyone who intends to come with me has to let me lead. You’re not in the driver’s seat—I am. Don’t run from suffering; embrace it. Follow me and I’ll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self. What good would it do to get everything you want and lose you, the real you? If any of you is embarrassed with me and the way I’m leading you, know that the Son of Man will be far more embarrassed with you when he arrives in all his splendor in company with the Father and the holy angels. This isn’t, you realize, pie in the sky by and by. Some who have taken their stand right here are going to see it happen, see with their own eyes the kingdom of God.”
When Jesus was on the cross he was totally separated from the love of God. His very father totally turns his back on him because Jesus takes our sin upon himself to save us. No amount of pain and sense of isolation from God can compare to the suffering of Christ. If we are to live up to the meaning of the name given to us (little Christ - Christian) then it is clear to me that we shall share the experience of the pain endured by the prototype.
All this seems awful and might put people off being a Christian. Why would you choose to suffer, to make life harder and give up all control of your life? It doesn't really make sense! The thing is, however, that we will never suffer as much as Christ. It is indeed possible that we will be taken to the limits of what we can bear, but as long as we put our trust and live in the hands of God we will never be taken past our limits. Jesus says in Matthew 11 30 'For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.’ He isn't saying there will be no burden but that it will be bearable. We aren't going to find ourselves beyond what we can cope with.
Hard times happen to enable us to grow stronger in our faith when we become overly confident in our own abilities as humans. The hard times can have two outcomes:
a) To push us into a corner whereby we have no choice but to rely on God or
b) We decide that we are having nothing to do with a God that we believe is unfair, nasty and allowing us to go through a living hell.
If we choose option a then life becomes more bearable, not necessarily easier but certainly more bearable. We gain our strength from the one who enables everything to be.
We are free to choose option b as a result of freewill but it comes with issues as it is in effect rebelling against God. In church we have a word for this - SIN - Those who go down this road have a choice repent and go back to the hard way that leads to heaven, or take the seemingly easy way out. Unfortunately that is not such a nice way as it leads to the gates of Hell.
Below I have drawn a picture that I hope explains what I have said above:
We start off in our Christian lives in the presence of God, indicated by the bottom Y. The centre of the picture indicates where the presence of God is. With every choice we make we have the option to get closer or further from the plan that God has for us and thus from God.
The further our lives get from God the harder it is to come back, because we have made barriers between us and God. This is something we have done whether by temptation or deliberately. As a Christian it is vital that we spend time in the presence of God discerning what is and what is not the way of God. This is a process that is arduous in many ways.